What Are 5 Facts I Want My White Friends to Know?

Dear White Friends,

I have been a minority in many white settings for several years. I have been studying your culture. I have listened to your music and watched your movies. I have learned your terminology. Minorities have been studying your culture for years. I would argue we know more about you than you know about us.

Our country continues to have racial tension, and you often wonder how do I respond as a white person?  Or what should I be aware of? Let me offer you 5 things to be of aware in this post and five ways to respond in the next post. 

1) You Stereotype Black People

  You question our blackness, which demonstrates a narrow view of black culture.  You call us Oreos (black on the outside and white on the inside), which displays you have a stereotypical view of black people. How prideful is it that you tell black people what blackness is?

Black people come in all shapes, sizes, shades, and cultures. Kendrick Lamar and Darius Rucker have cultural differences but they are both black. Heed the words of Carlton Banks from the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air “Black is not something I am trying to be, black is what I am.”

2)  Your White Shame is Worthless

Please, stop apologizing for being white. God made you white. He placed you in your ethnic group for a reason. Brothers and Sisters, you are a part of an ethnic group and don’t forget that. You carry the heritage placed on you by history. You have privilege. You can deny all the evil your people have done, but history remains. You can’t escape history. Those who ignore history will repeat it. Don’t ignore it, learn from it. Friends stop fantasizing about being a minority and embrace who God has made you.

3) Your News Sources Are Homogeneous 

The words of Fox News and The Wall Street Journal are not gospel.  Bipartisan news sources are hard to find. So read various new sources to have an informed opinion. I remember researching the Philando Castile shooting on various news sites. I noticed several of them focused more on his history with the police and the others focused on who he was. Conservative news sources alone will hinder your understanding of racial issues. Try reading NBC Black or Huffington Post Black Voices. Diversify your News feed. 

4) Your Black and Brown Brothers Don’t Have All the Answers

We don’t know the answers to all the racial issues in America. We have to do research too. I want you to know you can do the same research and study like we do. Friends, I have gone to the same institutions you have. We have the same training. Don’t make me do all the work when we have the same resources available to us. I can give you a starting point to narrow it down then you can began to research. Don’t hire minorities in your church and expect them to have solutions for your racial issues. The pressure is overwhelming.

5) We Love Our Folks

In Romans 9:3 Paul says he would endure the wrath of God if his kinfolk could be saved. Paul loved his kinsmen. We love our people. We love to see them succeed and we will champion them, which doesn’t mean we agree with everything they do or say. We have endured so much as a people and we love to see progress. We hate to see them fall. We despise hearing of black celebrity scandals. We deplore hearing about the unjust death of one of our own. It doesn’t matter whether we know them or not. Their geographic location doesn’t matter. What matters is that they are one of ours.  We want to see fewer people of color in poverty and prison. Our desire is to see more scholars, doctors, and judges who represent us. Don’t worry we are not planning a societal takeover. We just want our people to flourish. This is why we say #BlackLivesMatter. We don’t consider other lives inferior. Please, stop saying All Lives Matter it is an insult to our intelligence and it is offensive.  But we want people to know black lives matter too. I am not advocating for the organization, but I am advocating for the statement. For more on that checkout Dr. Carl Ellis’s blog.

Stay Tuned for Part 2……

Photo by Brad Neathery on Unsplash

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